Most of us hate making big decisions. Should I leave this job? Would my life be better if I moved to another place? Is it time to end this relationship? We usually angst about these issues for weeks, months and even years. I’ve observed that, left to their own devices, most people decide not to decide. They let “fate” take its course. What this actually means is, they don’t make an active choice about what they want, so much as they let circumstances choose for them.
No one aspires to feeling upset, down, depressed or out-of-balance. You’ve probably read many of the same books and attended the same seminars that I have. We’re striving for a life of balance and peace. Right? My answer – yes and no. When your life feels out of kilter it’s simply a message from your intuition that it’s time to make a change.
Would you like to read my favorite intuitive technique for making a good decision? If you answered “YES!” then read on. Have your notebook or journal ready to jot down your responses.
“How to Use Your Intuition to Make a Good Decision” Exercise:
- Describe something you’re unhappy about.
- If you could be granted any wish, what would you like to happen regarding this situation?
- Describe five options you have relative to this issue: (Examples: You could choose to talk to someone, to leave, to stay, to ask for help or support, to pray, to not decide, to take a risk, to shift your attitude, to continue doing what you’ve always done, to take a specific course of action, or all of the above.)
- Close your eyes, take a deep breath. When you feel centered ask your intuition the question, “What is the best course of action to take?” Pause. Think about all the options you’ve just written. Is there one choice that leaps out as the best decision? If not, go deeper and ask the question again. A new answer may emerge.
- Write about your results in a journal.
- What three action steps can you take that will move you in the direction you chose?
Four things to consider:
1) The intuitive answer you come up with may make you feel a little scared or anxious. That’s normal. Most likely the choice you’re considering is moving you out of your comfort zone. If you feel unable to make a big change right now, think about some small steps you could take to honor your intuition.
2) You may not receive an answer immediately. Again, that’s normal! Try the exercise again later in the week or keep a notebook handy to jot down any “ah ha” moments you receive throughout the day.
3) Consider scheduling an Intuitive Reading with me. Clients generally call when they’re in the midst of change and transition. I use my intuition, and also help you use yours, to figure out the right next steps.
4) You could also try one of the quizzes on my site. The one titled “Are You Making the Right Decision?” could be especially helpful.