In my book, “LISTEN: Trusting Your Inner Voice in Times of Crisis,” I interviewed many folks who had gone through a significant life crisis and reportedly came out better and stronger because of it. They offered advice to comrades on the path of life.
Here are their top ten suggestions:
- When you have done all you can do and life still isn’t going your way, it’s time to surrender. God has a better plan. Make a space for His miracles.
- Be extra kind to yourself. If you’re going through a crisis, it isn’t the time to beat yourself up or get down on yourself for some perceived failing. Simply do the best you can every day. Things will get better.
- Have a positive, easy-to-remember affirmation that can get you through a tough day. My favorites are, “This too shall pass.” “It is what it is.” “I let go and let God.” “All I can do is put one foot ahead of the other and keep moving.” “I am (or this situation is) in God’s hand’s.” And finally, “It will all work out.”
- When you don’t know what to do, just take the next right step. It doesn’t have to be a big leap.
- Make a list of small pleasures. These could be getting your hair done, taking a walk with a friend, renting a funny movie. Do at least a few of them every week. It’s important to take care of yourself even when you’re in a crisis.
- God’s delays are not his denials. Be patient. The Universe is unfolding just as it should. You’re being readied for something better.
- Find time to go within everyday. Your faith may be in God, angels, Mohammed, guides, Jesus, Divine Consciousness or simply yourself. Seek the still, quiet within to connect with Wisdom.
- Remember that you’re an expert on yourself. Everyone will have advice for you — “Let it go.” “It’s time to get on with your life.” “You should (fill in the blank.)” — only you know what’s right for you. Trust your own guidance.
- If you lack confidence or suffer from poor self-esteem, do something each week that pushes you out of your comfort zone a little. It will help you develop your courage muscles and is the fastest way to build your belief in yourself and your abilities.
- Go slow. Rest. Take it easy. Build downtime into each day. Your body and soul need time to heal. The precious buds of miracles often take root in the fertile soil of sleep, rest and healthy food.
What about you? What advice would you give to someone going through a major life difficulty?