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Finding Happiness

Dear Lynn:

This past year has been so stressful. I got a divorce after being married for eleven years and shortly afterwards lost my job. I feel so discouraged. Is it possible to be happy again?


Dear Sophie

First of all, I’m sorry that you’re feeling so discouraged. It may make you feel better to know that almost all of us experience setbacks at some point in our lives. It may not be your particular set of circumstances, but that feeling of hopelessness is familiar to many. And the answer to your question is a resounding “YES!” It IS possible (and highly likely) you’ll become happy again. Following are some ideas to get back on track.

The Universe sends you messages about the right next steps through the vehicle of your intuition. One of the ways that intuition communicates with you is through what you feel excited about. That’s an important piece of input you should pay attention to because it’s providing you with information about a step that you could take. Begin to make time for it in your life.

You’re probably familiar with the notion that happiness lies within. It’s not guaranteed by a new job, more money, getting married (or divorced!), having children or being able to retire. Any happiness, bliss, or peace that you experience is brought about by your attitude, thoughts, and beliefs. No new event or circumstance will secure your satisfaction; how you think and feel about the new circumstance will.

What do you feel grateful for right now?

Your intuition will constantly provide you with information about how to create a life you love when you begin to focus on appreciation. It will give you nudges, hints, impulses, feelings, hunches and dreams, to move you in the right direction. In order to receive this Divine input, you need a channel that’s open to accepting its messages.

Sacred Idleness

If you’re constantly stressed or simply discouraged and always wishing for more time, money, freedom, energy – or something else, you need to create some time for what I call “sacred idleness.”

All those signs of stress are signals from your intuition that it’s time to slow down or take a comfort break or give yourself a few hours or days off to reflect on your life. Simply be with whatever you are experiencing right now. Life is calling you to rest and renew. A new path will emerge. It always does.

What do you truly want? What fills your soul? What can you let go of? What are the blessings in your life? These are all questions to ask your intuitive guidance system. Listen to the answers, reflect, and take action. Taking the time to meditate, write and dream new dreams will pay off in a big way. They’re the first steps in creating a life you love.

Here’s an intuition exercise I call “The Journey to Peace.” You may find this helpful to getting back on track.

Intuition Exercise: Journey to Peace

Do you have a favorite spot where you feel relaxed and at peace? It may be in your own home — in your favorite chair, sitting on the porch, or even in your bathtub. Perhaps it’s outside your home. There is a waterfall a short drive from my house. I go there often with a picnic lunch and sit and watch the ducks and geese floating gently in the stream.

If you don’t have your own special place, make it a goal to find one. What you need to do is very simple. Just be present. Observe what’s around you. Take in your environment. Breathe. Relax. Just be with yourself and your surroundings. Slow down. If you find your mind wandering, notice it and simply bring it back to the present moment. Make time for sacred idleness. Feel your bliss.

Life has a way of righting itself, Sophie. I have an intuitive feeling that your life will be back on track and you’ll feel happy again soon.