I’m usually really good at trusting and acting on my intuition. It’s always been a reliable source of guidance in my life. However, the past few months have been very challenging between both my parents being sick and some difficulties in my marriage. I have a lot of decisions to make. I feel lost and can’t seem to hear my inner wisdom. Thanks so much for your books. Mine are all highlighted with the pages turned down.
It’s just not fair that when you’re going through a tough time your intuition seems to quit on you! I have to tell you that I’ve experienced the same thing. For me, it was the fact that my logical mind was on overdrive and sorting through all the endless possibilities. It seemed to block out my intuitive mind that could provide fresh and creative answers. So you’re not alone in your experience!
Here are three things that will help:
Be Good to Yourself
Most crises are self-limiting. That is, they don’t last forever; they only feel that way when you’re going through them. One way to make them a bit easier and open yourself to guidance in the process is to take some moments in each day and simply indulge yourself in something that makes you feel good. You might just take five minutes to lie on the grass in your backyard, pet your cat, indulge in a tea break or play some soul stirring music on your stereo and kick up your heels. Just breathe…feel yourself opening up to a stream of loving energy that is there to love, support and guide you during difficult times.
If I’m feeling really agitated and anxious, I bring to mind a line in the book A Course in Miracles. It says, “I could choose peace instead of this.” I’ll take a few deep, calming breaths and ask myself, “How else could I be thinking about this?” or “What would bring me peace in this situation?” The answers always come and they calm me down.”
I also like to use calming affirmations, short sentences I say to myself to counter the “I’m so overwhelmed” comment I’m likely to be internalizing when I’m stressed.
Some examples are:
-“I welcome peace.”
-“Things have a way of working out.”
-“This too shall pass.”
-“I flow with life easily and effortlessly.”
-“I am safe and secure.”
Use the Freeze Frame Technique
The HeartMath Institute in Boulder Creek, California has a wonderful technique they call “Freeze-Framing.” I have found it very helpful to use when my anxiety threatens to block out all insightful intuitive messages. Following is an excerpt from my book, Trust Your Gut: How the Power of Intuition Can Grow Your Business:
Doc Childre is the founder of the program and author of the book, “The HeartMath Solution.” He explains, “When we’re internally self-managed — feeling balanced, in control, and powerful — we make our greatest contribution. We act, not react. We think creatively. We communicate clearly. We manage well under pressure. We make good decisions. Our most inspiring leadership qualities emerge. When dozens, hundreds, thousands of employees work in that zone of peak performance, so does the organization.”
If you’re wondering how to use this information next time you’re in a crisis or simply feeling anxious, try the following techniques:
1. Recognize the stressful feeling and Freeze-Frame it. In other words, take time out. For example, see your problem as a still picture, not a movie. Stop the inner conversation you’re having about the situation.
2. Make a sincere effort to shift your focus away from your racing mind or disturbed emotions, and concentrate on the area around your heart. Pretend you’re breathing through your heart to help focus your energy in this area. Keep your focus there for ten seconds or more.
3. Bring to mind a positive feeling, or recall a time in your life when you were having fun. Hold that feeling for a few moments.
4. Now, using your intuition, ask your heart what would be a more efficient response to the situation — one that would minimize stress?
5. Listen to what your heart says in answer to your question. It’s an effective way to put your reactive mind and emotions in check. It’s like having an “in-house” source of wise solutions.
You may hear nothing, yet feel calmer. You may receive confirmation of something you already know, or you may experience a complete perspective shift, seeing the problem in a more balanced way. Although you may not have control over the event, you do have control over your perception of it and reaction to it.
So, Charlotte, I hope these ideas have been helpful. As tough as things are right now, I know things will work out for you. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.